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Day 28. 生活手册：实现幸福和高效的52个建议（上）Leo Babauta | 微信ID“晓飞翻译”这是我很久以来一直想写的内容 — 一本生活手册世上有没有能成为所有人生活指南的手册？当然没有这里只是我认为会在生活中帮到许多人的一列建议 — 其中一些还是我们经常忘记的常识技巧。

大家不妨把这篇指南当做一份日常提醒鉴于这份手册中引用的众多链接，我显然在以前也写过这方面的内容本质上来说，整个网站就是这份手册的更大版本但我想把所有内容浓缩到一篇文章里，以作为一份顺手好用的小指南希望大家会觉得它有用。

如何使用这份手册这份手册本意并非作为一份按部就班的指南，你也无需采纳以下所有建议同时采纳所有建议肯定毫无必要那样会令人感到不堪重负下面是使用这些建议的几个建议：挑选对你来说最有用的那些建议本文提供了52个建议 — 并非每一个都对所有人有用。

我希望你会发现其中有10条感觉有用，或者它们能成为你一直想做的事情的某种提醒不要同时去做所有建议请先选择一个建议去做，每次只做一个先专注做到一个，接着再做下一个同时进行一堆改变将极其困难试验先尝试一个建议，假如它不管用，再尝试另一个。

毕竟，生活就是一场试验没有什么能保证成功但许多建议都有可能为你带来幸福体验另外，这些建议也不分先后次序有些最重要的建议反而会埋藏在后面实现幸福和高效的52个建议1. 尝试早起我承认这个建议并不适用所有人。

它对你可能并不合适但我发现早起是自己生活中的一项惊人变化它让我每天可以更积极地开始生活，自己现在也有足够时间去写作、锻炼和静思我最近在《早起的10大好处，以及如何做到早起》那篇文章中谈过这个建议2. 做得更少

这既是幸福建议，也是高效建议做得更少会让你更幸福快乐，因为这样你的生活便不会一片忙乱，充满压力你将有时间为了自己所爱的人们，还有为了生活本身，去做令自己感到愉悦的事情它还是个高效建议：若你专注于那些至关重要，意义重大，能给你带来最大时间回报的任务，并去除其余任务，你实际会变得更高效多产。

你完成的任务更少，但会变得更加高效3. 慢下来这个网站的许多新读者在读过那些高效话题文章后，以为我是紧张亢奋的高效人士我并非如此长期读者知道我倡导更简单的生活方式遗憾的是，在我自由投稿的博客文章中，其他网站通常要求我写作关于高效的文章，所以自己大量有关高效的文字作品，会让人以为我提倡大家应当排除其他所有事情，用惊人速度完成很多工作。

其实我认为如果你能慢下来，生活将更令人享受通过做得更少，即使干得更慢，你实际上能完成更多实质工作而且当没在工作时，你绝对应该试着转换到慢速模式更慢开车（那种感觉更令人放松），更慢走路，更慢吃饭请参阅《慢下来... 好好享受生活》这篇文章。

4. 练习耐心我在《如何成为耐心父母》那篇文章中，谈过自己如何拓展耐心，但那些建议真的适合所有人若你很易发脾气，这些建议就能帮你变得更加耐心一旦拓展出耐心技能（它的确是种技能，而非无法改变的固有品质），你的生活将变得清醒明智得多，你也会感到更幸福快乐。

5. 练习同情心在我看来，这也许是最重要的建议假如你想只选一个建议，我就会选这个同情心的头一部分就是同理心 — 这种理解他人感受的能力可以通过耐心得到拓展请从想象一位所爱之人遭受的痛苦开始做起理解他们的痛苦，他们经历的情绪感受，以及他们为何会有各种反应。

通过频繁进行这种练习，你将拓展出也适合理解他人的技能 — 面对你遇见的每个人，请努力理解他们所经历的情绪感受试着更多了解和懂得他们的生活背景，他们为何会做出那些反应一旦拓展出这种无价技能，请再学习同情心的另一部分 — 基于自身理解付诸行动，主动帮助他人，减轻他们的痛苦，怀着善意采取行动。

这些做法能为你的生活，还有生活在你周围的人们，带来真正的幸福快乐6. 发现你的激情这是另一个不可或缺的建议此建议在我的优先性列表上也许能排到第二位找到某种自己热爱去做的事情，你的生活质量将获得极大提升你会爱上自己的工作，而在这件事上，你每周要花40小时（甚至更多时间）。

你将变得更高效多产，更少拖延，更没有压力你还将创造某些感到自豪，也为之快乐的成果7. 减重当然，这个建议只在你超重的情况下才适用但减去多余脂肪（当我说减重时，意思就是减去脂肪）会降低你的健康风险（显而易见），让你看起来体形更棒。

总体而言，减重很可能提升你对自己的幸福感我实际上倡导人们要学会对自己当前的样子感到舒服快乐，即使在超重时，也别有消极负面的感受不过，我已发现减重（至少对我来说），是对自己身体获得更佳感受的极好方式但别把它变成一种不健康的嗜好 — 请慢慢减重，享受过程。

下面两个建议就是做到此事的最好方法8. 锻炼请让锻炼成为你的日常习惯锻炼不仅能帮你减重，对我来说，它还让我收获了更佳个人感受我现在其实很享受锻炼它就是我的沉思时间，锻炼后我会对自己产生好得多的感受请参看《42个顶尖锻炼技巧》，以及《如何让锻炼成为每日习惯》。

9. 健康饮食我并不推荐节食那种做法限制太多，你通常会在某个时刻放弃不过我确实推荐你改变个人饮食 — 进行那些渐进改变，使之能够持续一生健康饮食不仅能帮助减重，而且一旦你开始吃得更健康，那种饮食方式也更令人享受。

请参看我的《15个顶尖饮食技巧》，以获取更多有用信息10. 冥想好吧，你也许像我一样 — 不喜欢“新时代”之类的东西但冥想其实能成为放松自我，带来平静，回归理智，沉思反省的简单方法11. 保持井井有条这个建议并非必要。

你可以在杂乱无章，四处找东西，并享受寻找过程的状态下，过着精彩生活但我试过杂乱无章的状态，也试过井井有条的生活第二种状态更令我享受若想开始了解这个主题，请阅读《如何永远不再丢东西》，以及我是如何让家庭生活保持井井有条的。

12. 积极思考此列表中另一个最重要的建议之一，就是积极思考它听起来像是陈词滥调，却是你能在生活中做出的最佳改变之一，它还可以帮你收获更多积极建议正如我在这篇文章（《20个自我激励的顶尖技巧》）中所写，学会积极思考就是让自己生活得以扭转的关键技能。

它使这个列表上的其他建议有了存在可能▼附原文：Handbook for Life: 52 Tips for Happiness and ProductivityBY LEO BABAUTAThis is something I’ve been wanting to write for some time — a Handbook for Life. Now, is there any handbook that can be a guide to every single person? Of course not. This is just a list of tips that I think will help many people in life — some of them common-sense tips that we often forget about. Consider this guide a reminder.

It’ll also become apparent from the links in this handbook that I’ve written about this stuff before. In essence, this site is a bigger version of this handbook. But I wanted to put them all in one place, as a handy little guide. I hope you find it useful.

How to use this handbookThis handbook is not meant to be a step-by-step guide, nor should you adopt all the tips below. Certainly not all at once. That would be overwhelming. Here are a couple tips for adopting the tips:

Pick and choose the tips that will be most useful to you. There are 52 tips here — not every single one will be useful to every person. I hope you’ll find 10 that are useful, or that are reminders of something you’ve been wanting to do.

Don’t do them all at once. Choose one tip to do first, and then do them one at a time. Focus on one first, and then the next. It’s too hard to try to adopt a bunch of changes at once.

Experiment. Try out a tip, and if it doesn’t work, try another. Life is an experiment, after all.None are guaranteed

. But many are very likely to bring happiness.Also, these are not in any order. Some of the most important are buried below.

52 Tips for Happiness and ProductivityTry rising early. It’s not for everyone, I’ll admit. It may not be for you. But I’ve found it to be an amazing change in my life. It has made the start of my days much more positive, and I now have time for writing, exercise, and silent contemplation. I talked about this recently in my post 10 Benefits of Rising Early, and How to Do It.

Do less. This is both a happiness and productivity tip. Doing less will make you happier, because your life won’t be so hectic and filled with stress. You will have time for things that give you pleasure, for the loved ones in your life, for life itself. It’s also a productivity tip: if you focus on the essential tasks, the big ones, the ones that will give you the most return for your time, and eliminate the rest, you will actually be more productive. You’ll get fewer tasks done, but you will be more effective. See How to Pare Your To-do List Down to the Essentials.

Slow down. Many new readers to this site have read my productivity articles and think that I’m all about being hyper-productive. I’m not. Long-time readers know that I am about a simpler way of life. Unfortunately, in my free-lance blogging, other websites usually ask me to write about productivity, so the preponderance of my productivity writing has given the impression, I think, that I think people should be churning out work at an amazing rate, to the exclusion of all else. Actually, I feel that life is much more enjoyable if you slow down. By doing less, you can actually get more done, even if you work more slowly. And when you’re not working, you should definitely try switching to slow mode. Drive slower (it is so much more relaxing), walk slower, eat slower. See Slow Down to Enjoy Life for more.

Practice patience. I’ve talked about how I’m trying to develop patience in my parenting article, How to Become a Patient Parent, but these tips really apply to everyone. If you easily lose your temper, you can become more patient with these tips. Once you’ve developed this skill (and it’s a skill, like everything else, not an unchangeable inborn trait), your life will become much saner and you will be much happier.

Practice compassion. This may be the most important tip of all, in my opinion. If you were to choose any of these, I would choose this one. The first part of compassion is empathy — and this ability to understand how others feel can be developed through practice. Start by imagining the suffering of a loved one. Understand their pain, the emotions they go through, and why they would react the way they would. By doing this exercise a number of times, you are developing a skill that can be applied to others — for every person you see, try to understand what they are going through. Try to learn and understand more about their background, and why they react the way they do. Once you’ve developed this invaluable skill, learn the other half of compassion — acting on your understanding, and helping others, alleviating their suffering, acting with kindness. This one thing can bring true happiness to your life, and the lives of those around you.

Find your passion. Another indispensable tip. This might be the second on my list of priorities. Find something you love to do, and your life will become immensely improved. You will love your work, the thing that you spend 40 hours (or more) a week doing. You will become more productive, procrastinate less, be less stressed. You will produce something you are proud of, and happy about. Read this article for some practical tips.

Lose weight. This only applies, of course, if you are overweight. But losing your extra fat (and when I say lose weight, I mean lose fat), decreases your health risks (obviously), makes you look better, and in general is very likely to increase your happiness about yourself. I actually recommend that you learn to be comfortable and happy with how you look now, and not feel negative about yourself even if you are overweight. However, I’ve found that losing weight (at least for me) is a great way to feel better about your body. Do not make this an unhealthy obsession, however — lose weight gradually, and enjoy the process. See the next two tips for the best methods for doing this.

Exercise. Make this a daily habit. Exercise not only helps you lose weight, but for me, it’s made me feel so much better. I actually enjoy exercise now. It’s a time of contemplation for me, and I feel so much better about myself afterwards. See Top 42 Exercise Hacks and How to Make Exercise a Daily Habit and 7 Ways to Build the Exercise Habit.

Eat healthy. I don’t recommend dieting. It’s too restrictive and you usually fall off it at some point. I do recommend changes to your diet, however — ones you make gradually, and that can be sustained for life. It not only helps lose weight, but really, once you start eating healthier, it is actually much more enjoyable. See my Top 15 Diet Hacks for more.

Meditate. OK, you might be like me — not into New-Age stuff. But meditation can actually be a very simple method for relaxing, for bringing calm, for returning yourself to sanity, for contemplation. My friend Scott Young wrote a good post about doing that here.

Get organized. This one’s not necessary. You could go through life wonderfully messy, searching for stuff, enjoying the search. But I’ve tried disorganized, and I’ve tried organized. The second is much more enjoyable to me. Read How to Never Lose Anything Again for a start on the subject, as well as how I keep my family organized.

Think positive. Another one of the most important tips on this list, thinking positive — as cliche as it might sound — is one of the single best changes you can make in your life that will lead to so many more positive tips. As I wrote about here, learning to think positive was the skill that turned my life around. It makes everything else on this list possible. Read more about it here.

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